Positive Thinking Jan 19, 2013 20:39:09 GMT -8
Post by spongey on Jan 19, 2013 20:39:09 GMT -8
Yeah, gotcha. Would be interesting to explore this further. What's the point for the person to understand this, to notice this, to notice the futility of these lifelong attempts of trying to tip the balance? I'd say dualistic happiness sounds always better than dualistic unhappiness to the person, even when the person understands the boundaries of it. Understanding the boundaries of it also means understanding that the person can't have unconditional happiness. That's where statements like "non-dual truths are not practical" come from. ;D
Yeah, it's not good news that one can't find a one-ended stick. This is what folks look for their whole lives and everyone supports that search from advertising to self help gurus. Mostly, folks believe in what they're selling because they got themselves in a better place. What's difficult to admit, even to ourselves, is that we're not really happier in this 'better place' than we were before. We have to keep remembering how bad it was and how good it is now or we forget the game of being happier. A good way to remind ourselves is for things to get worse for a while, and so they do. Then we're all grateful and relieved and such, for a while. This is the roller coaster game that almost everyone plays and hardly anyone wants to admit isn't working.
The problem is that the goal is wrong, and before the goal can change we need to recognize why the old goal can't work, and there's naturally a lot of resistance associated with that. That's why I've spent a lot of time at that crossroads where we stop chasing after dualistic happiness and start getting interested in this mysterious Peace thingy. To start trying to 'sell' Peace without changing the happiness mindset virtually guarantees the seeker will be looking for a dualistic peace experience of some kind that will bring about permanent happiness. I think that transition of mindset is important, and can be rather difficult to achieve, because mind can't really understand what Peace is.
This does ring true. For example, we've experienced fairly big changes in our personal life this last year. I feel like I'm happier because of it. I certainly do look back and am then grateful for all I have. However, deep down there is still sadness, well mind actively looks for things to not be happy about.
For instance I have a friend say one ;Dor two remarks I didn't like, despite all the great stuff she says, my mind homes in on the two bad things and relentlessly talks about it! The good news is that I am able to watch it happening, although am not sure who that 'I' watching it is, it's as far as I've got.
Anyway, back to the topic. Positive thinking is far better than negative thinking in my opinion, but it's not always possible! I have no doubt now that one attracts more of what one focus on, so to teach that to the masses is definately a good thing.
I do understand your point Enigma, it's actually Peace not happiness we're ultimately looking for but in the meantime, may as well enjoy our ride!